In the conducted in 1990. the research of experts from Johns Hopkins University compared the prevalence of clinical depression among representatives of 104 occupations. First place in the list were lawyers who suffer from depression are almost four times more than in the General population. In his book "On Being a Happy, Healthy, and Ethical Member of an Unhappy, Unhealthy and Unethical Profession" Shilts makes an excellent review and commentary on research indicating high levels of depression, anxiety, alcoholism, drug abuse, suicide, divorce and poor physical health among lawyers or law students. He offers three explanations of these data: a long day at work; the money they might lose sravnivala the essence of the profession. Finally the writers he looked intently and offers advice to maintain mental health and moral stand, without having to abandon pobresito.
Not only writers he looked intently, but also many other researchers, there is sufficient data confirming the significant value of good communication and positive relationships in your personal, professional and business plan. Thriving companies (and professions) in which the ratio of positive and negative statements, it is better than 2.9:1. The company, whose ratio was below this threshold, do not succeed in the economic aspect. This ratio was called the "Losada", the name Brazilian researcher Marcel Losada, which establishes this fact. John Gottman achieves the same statistical results, in the conversations between couples at the weekend. The ratio of 2.9:1 means you sought divorce. Predictor, stable and full of love marriage is a 5:1 ratio – five positive statements at each addressed to a marriage partner criticism. The habit of keeping a ratio of 1:3 in family relationships leads to the inevitable disaster. The negative attitude of the "Lozada", can have a good effect in the legal profession, but to provoke a lot on a personal level. Does the lawyer this ratio at home, he was in trouble. Do not forget that among all occupations, and levels of depression, suicide and divorce rate is the highest in the law. However, do not overdo it with positivity: at a ratio of over 13:1 without a rational function with all the negativity you can find in a world of illusions and lose their credibility, samozashchita and ignoring problems that should be solved.
Here we will briefly examine that what matters is how the perception of different events (positive and negative) and corresponding relationships for harmony in family vzaimootnoshenia.
A surprising discovery of the numerous studies carried out with the greatest intimacy and trust, the links are not in line with how partners react to disappointment, loss, and other adversity, and how to accept good news. Found that thrives links are those in which the partners answers "actively and constructively" (i.e. interest and enjoyment) in the presence of good luck and success. When your partner said that increased, the reaction you joy and enthusiastic questions suggests that you shunali the significance of his achievements (for him and for you), makes it more memorable, confirms its importance and signals that you keep your companion. Both men and women, who say they are partners they react to this "active-constructive" method, considered the most high level of satisfaction, trust and intimacy in relationships.
Not always, however, accept the good news of the partner (or he ours) in the most optimal way, but instead to show reactions that damage our relationship. The researchers found, for example, that if, when, know, aimed at improving a marriage partner, to Express silent support (for example, show little or no enthusiasm), specify its complications and negative aspects ("Will it work on weekends?";"Does this mean that you have to move?“) or not say anything at all, podkapova happiness, warmth and trust in our relationship.
Thus, the positive evaluation and endorsement of good news for the partners of our effective strategy for promoting relations and, consequently, increase the pleasure and satisfaction that we receive from him, – in short, to prevent hedonistically adaptation, namely the fact that human beings have a remarkable ability privikat or napadat on most of life's changes, especially positive experiences. Research shows that people who seek to show genuine enthusiasm, support and understanding for the good news for partners as it's a little one, and doing it three times a day for one week, become more happy and less depressed.
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